Severing that SELFISH ........

I woke up this morning with some serious thoughts on my mind; one of them being the ties that bind. This was probably because I was working on some things yesterday regarding severing those toxic ties or letting go of things and people that keeps us bound, frozen in time or stuck in the past.

We've heard all of the talk about getting away from toxic people; the ones who are no good for you, who doubt your abilities and make you doubt yourself, who smile in your faces, but stabs you in the back. They are the naysayers, the bees that are always buzzing negativity in your ears.

But then something else popped up. What if the toxic tie that keeps you bound is.........(wait for it)........your own SELF?

You doubt your own self. You procrastinate or talk your self out of your own ideas. You are the naysayer in your own life. You have limiting beliefs when it comes to your own potential. You are your own worst enemy.

So, how do you sever the ties with yourself? Is that even possible?

Absolutely!

There are plenty of motivational websites, cds, dvds, books, blogs, etc. that are yours for the taking to get inspired and to get motivated about severing those ties and changing your life.

But there is a catch. You have to be more than just a 'self-help' junkie and actually do something to make the change.

Self-help junkies are the folks who constantly feed on all things self-help.

They know every motivational speaker out there.

They have every self-help book, tapes and have attended every seminar.

They read every self-help website, blogs, magazines, books, etc.

They can quote all of the great motivators and inspirational speakers.

They pray for a brighter day and a glorious life with all of its fabulousness.

Yet, with so much information available and also in doing all of that, these junkies have done absolutely nothing to change their situations or their lives. They have not taken one step to improve their circumstances or to make their lives better.

These people even know exactly what they want. They have the vision, wrote it, and created a vision board. 

Yet, they are still their own tie that binds.

Their lives are still in twisted web of hopes of a glorious future and the actual reality of it all. Some people just operate better in a 'fantasy' world than the 'real' world. It's much easier for them to go with the norm, than to exceed with greatness.

Are you one of these people?

I have to admit, that for years, I was one of these people described above. Now, don't get me wrong, I have always been one who will take chances. It has always been my dream to be an entrepreneur and do my own thing. So I have ventured into many arenas, from vitamins, cosmetics, legal insurance, real estate, etc. I have tried several of them, but none were my niche.

And that damn toxic tie, SELF, would start yelling the "I told you" in my ear. Yelling at me about what I should and should not have done. That jankie nay-sayer would be all in my mix, making me doubt myself, trying to convince me to do things the conventional way (just work a job for someone else the rest of your life) and forget about having any hopes and dreams of your own.

Yeah, that SELFISH ..........!

So, after each failed venture, and the beat down from this toxic mofo, I felt the need to be motivated and inspired again. I fell back into the cycle of a self-help junkie, soaking up all the knowledge that I could find to make me feel better about myself and my desire to be my own boss again.

But deep down, that fear from my toxic tie, would be on a mission to render me motionless, again.

And I must admit, it almost had me. My last JOB lasted almost 8 years. That is the longest I had ever stayed on a JOB before because I was always looking for some way to be my own boss.

It wasn't until the last few months on that JOB, I started to get really restless and knew that if I was ever going to make a move, to work for myself and be my own boss, then I needed to not put it off any longer and just step out on faith. So, you guessed it, I did.

My toxic tie tried to talk me out of it. Told me that the economy was down so I better hang on to the JOB. Told me that if things didnt work out as planned, that I could lose everything I had WORKED to obtain. Told me that I had bills to pay. Told me that the market that I wanted to pursue was already saturated, so how could I make my mark in it.

Yeah, that SELFISH....... tried to keep me stuck, again.

But, if you know me, then you know that I was bound to sever that tie. That's right! I don't take kindly to those kind of messages. Nope, not the negative ones. So, not only did I cut that toxic tie, but I burned it and buried it.

Hey, I can be a beast when necessary. When backed into a corner, even by own SELF, I come out swinging like a woman who has lost her mind. And if you think about it, I was servering the old mind. I know what I am capable of.

So, when the ghost of the SELFISH ..... tries to haunt me when I make mistakes, I just take the reinvented SELF and put the beat down on her.

Then, I gone and brush my shoulders off and wipe me down with positivity.

So, can you sever those toxic ties with your self? Yes, you can. If you want to beat that SELFISH ..... down, so that you can move forward with making your dreams a reality, then do what I did.

You have to start somewhere at some time. So, know what you want, then just take the plunge. Don't let that maysayer hold you back any longer. You are more than capable of achieving the wonderful life that you envision.

Faith without doing anything, is not faith at all. As a matter of fact, it is the exact opposite, Fear.

Have you ever experienced a time when you were your own tie that kept you bound?



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